How are you coping with the uncertainty and turmoil many of us are facing today? Are you feeling drained by the worries of what’s going to happen? Are you struggling to cope with the new ways of working remotely? Or maybe you’re using this time usefully to take a step back from old patterns that […]
Do you ever feel fake, like a fraud, when you speak in public or in meetings? Like you’re pretending to have expertise that you don’t really have? And that your audience and colleagues are going to see right through you for the impostor you really are? If this sounds like you, then welcome to the […]
Nowadays, we often hear the word “assertiveness” being used. In fact, it’s become quite a buzzword in personal development. But do you know how you can use it for better communication? From my experience, I’ve noticed that people often mix up assertiveness and aggressiveness. Yet, they’re certainly not the same. Communicating assertively means you get […]
Do you sometimes fear that your colleagues, managers or clients are judging you when you express your opinion or when you speak in public?
If you do, join the club that most people belong to!
We live in a competitive society where judgment is ubiquitous. Children are graded at school for their work, encouraged to be good at sports and to be top of the class. As adults, employees receive performance reviews that affect the salary and promotion they receive. Entrepreneurs need to constantly prove that their services or products are better than their competitors.
So, it’s hardly surprising that so many of us feel like we’re being judged. Judgment has pervaded our lives since an early age and it continues to do so today.
Which response to the fear of public speaking do you choose: fight or flight? Have you ever had to give an important presentation in front of colleagues or clients and you felt like you desperately wanted to run off the stage and escape? I have! In fact, I almost always used to feel like […]
“I’m ashamed of speaking in front of an audience in English. In my company, the level of professional English is good and I don’t feel I measure up. As a company director I have to give oral presentations in English but I feel like my colleagues and bosses are judging me. I’m sure they […]
In my previous newsletter, I talked about famous people who have overcome their introversion, managing to look and feel comfortable in the public eye. One of my favourite examples to illustrate how this is possible is J K Rowling’s Harvard Commencement Speech. She’s a self-proclaimed introvert and yet her speech, “The Fringe Benefits of Failure”, is not only witty but also moving and inspiring. Here’s the link to watch this talk:
Even the most outgoing people can feel anxious about speaking in front of a large audience. For an introvert – someone who has a natural tendency to be reserved and solitary – this experience can simply become terrifying. Does this sound familiar?
Standing up to speak in front of a group of people can be intimidating enough in your own language; doing so in a foreign language is sometimes the biggest hurdle my clients have to face. Glossophobia (fear of public speaking) ranks number 1 on the list of people’s worst fears, and statistics show that around 75% of the population suffer from it. Lack of self-confidence, the fear of being judged and/or feeling like an impostor are common obstacles that my clients evoke, causing them to feel anxiety in front of an audience
In our previous newsletter we looked at the Lock, Talk and Pause technique to help reduce your stress as a speaker and to keep the audience’s full attention. I would now like to share with you some tips on the powerful and indispensable technique of pausing.